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No, this is not yet another thesis on the colonial-mentality-induced potato-queen-rice-queen culture, or the lack thereof. This is in fact, a rant musing on the proliferation of couples who are as bad, or worse than sticky rice grains.

I know what you are thinking: there goes the veteran single again, who has grapes sour enough to make wine. Get a life, pleinelune! and maybe you will finally stop complaining about couples and being single.

Well, yes, I am single, but no, I do not have sour grapes- how can I, when I have decided apples are better than grapes? [leaves her readers' minds to run wild on the sexual innuendos surrounding the last statement] But as an apple-eater, I have observed the grapes from afar, and have made a few observations.

Exhibit A: The Clingwraps. Have you ever been to a party/gathering, where all the couples are clingy enough to make GladWrap look like dry wood? Nothing wrong with a little PDA- but really honey, do you have to spend the entire party on your partner's lap?

My basic understanding of parties and social gatherings is that it is an opportunity to get to know other people. You already know your partner well. So, I would like someone to enlighten me: why in the world do couples always sit next to each other, doing as much PDA as possible? Is that not an activity reserved for when you are alone? Perhaps it is a remnant-instinct from the time when you had to bare your teeth at potential competitors for your mate, mark her yours with bite marks, and urinate around the nest to guard her from other alphas.

Exhibit B: The Crashers. You invite your friend/colleague for coffee/meeting/chill-out, and she arrives with her partner, who was entirely uninvited. Besides creating potentially socially awkward scenes, it also begs the question of why she cannot leave her partner at home. It is not that difficult to arrange it such that they meet after the said appointment is over; instead, the said partner either has to be invited into the session, or has to go off somewhere [or be told to do so] creating even more awkward situations. This can happen especially when you were looking forward to discussing personal/confidential things with your friend, but cannot do so with the deadweight of her partner, whom you hardly know.

Exhibit C: The Magicians. I cannot speak for gay men, but lesbians are amazing magicians. They vanish at will from the lesbian scene with a partner, leaving all their friends to wonder where she has gone. They reappear a few months alone, having successfully vanished their partners for good, looking for the next 'beautiful assistant', with whom they repeat the vanishing act. In this time they are attached, they suddenly become unavailable to all their friends, spending all the time with their partner.

'Hey, girl, wanna have coffee?'
'Nah, me and [insert name] are going to Sentosa'

'Hey girl, wanna crash Thumper tomorrow?'
'Nah, [insert name] and I are going to spend the night at her house. And the next. And the night after that.'

There are so many other exhibits, such as The Serial Monogamists and The U-haulers; but I trust you get the point. Though I enjoy the tune, I've never liked the lyrics of 'Whole Again' by Atomic Kitten. Why? Because one cannot be a whole person if one has to rely on their partner to be whole. One is not someone's half, to be joined like a human-size jigsaw puzzle with another half who has complementing edges. We are all whole people, with our distinct personalities and souls. The behaviour exhibited by a lot of queer couples, however, is a little dysfunctional, as they base their lives around the person they are dating. [I cannot speak for whether the straight couples act this way, as most of the ones I know are married with kids, and those have entirely different dynamics and context]

So why am I risking the wrath of all the attached people I know, by writing this article, and taking you through exhibit by exhibit? Because there are a few consequences to the way they act, in long-term:

1. It alienates their existing friends. How many times can they snub them, before the friends start rolling their eyes and stop calling them entirely?

2. It prevents them from developing good friendships with others, as they do not have enough time for them. A support network is essential, especially if they are queer.

3. It affects their personality and identity. For example, it can get to a point where their self-worth is always based on whether they are attached. And it can put a stop to personal development and reflection, away from the consideration of a partner. It can also lead to people stopping to consider them as a person, but always as half of a couple.

In a nutshell: girls [and boys], by all means, get attached, but please do not get shadows. Be happy, but do not base your happiness on your relationship alone. Spend all the time you want with your partner, but do not ignore your friends.

What is that? No grapes for me, thank you for asking. Maybe after I am done with the apples.



1. None of the scenarios described are aimed at, or taken from specific people. All my descriptions are an amalgation of different people and situations I’ve known and experienced.

2. Obviously this article is not aimed at ALL the couples, but those who insist on behaving like Siamese Twins.


# nancy 2010-02-02 03:55

nancy said,

January 4, 2007 at 5:08 pm

Hahaha. You gave a whole new meaning to stickyrice. Well, I guess there are deeper reasons for that. Whether it’s psychological, or a broader picture at the lesbian profile… I shall leave it to the experts to dissect.
# xav 2010-02-02 03:55

xav said,

January 5, 2007 at 2:04 am

riot gear is so sexy.
# AAntoinette 2010-02-02 03:55

Antoinette said,

January 5, 2007 at 2:20 am

Mwahahaha…I like this article – especially the bit about “clingwraps” & “magicians”.
# victoriasecret 2010-02-02 03:55

victoriasecret said,

January 5, 2007 at 8:24 pm

Sigh.. i also keep eating apple though i don’t like it… =P…
# pleinelunee 2010-02-02 03:56

pleinelune said,

January 5, 2007 at 9:47 pm

VS, I don’t think you quite understand the inneundo behind “apples”. But that’s alright, the full meaning of that for me and only me to know. ;)
# victoriasecret 2010-02-02 03:56

victoriasecret said,

January 5, 2007 at 10:09 pm

oh yeah.. i know it is not the same.. i meant real fruit
oh c’mon.. do share with us your ‘apples’ =P
Btw.. i wonder why you write so often abt this single and dynamic couple stuffs, perhaps, it is good if you yourself give it a try… hehhehehe
# pleinelunee 2010-02-02 03:56

pleinelune said,

January 7, 2007 at 10:43 am

*rolls eyes and goes back to eating apples*
# Irene’s Birthday 2010-02-02 03:56

Irene’s Birthday… and Sticky Rice « Used Brains For Sale said,

February 11, 2008 at 1:00 pm

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# Cassie Black 2010-02-02 03:56

Cassie Black said,

July 24, 2008 at 5:01 am

I’m a lover not a hater, superb post.

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