Relationships

Obsessed with keeping your partner?

Written by moonflower on 23 July 2008. Posted in Relationships

In your love-drunken stupor (which you are stuck in), you linger on your partner of several months…

… She’s altogether lovely, a goddess from the heavens… Sweet, loving, intelligent, possessing a zest for life… You think she’s the most beautiful girl you have ever seen. She’s everything you ever hoped for… your dream come true.

And then you look at yourself…

… “Blah! I am too chubby over here, my hair doesn’t look great… my career is not having the break through that I hoped for… Not good-looking enough, not successful sufficiently… I think I suck.”

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Sayoni Hot 20 List 2008: Voting Closed!

Written by sayoni on 15 July 2008. Posted in Events

Voting is now officially closed for the Sayoni Hot 20 List 2008! We thank each and every person who voted. Results will be out within a couple of weeks! Meanwhile, tell your friends about the contest!

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Repeal 377A Singapore!

Written by snorkeem on 13 July 2008. Posted in Announcements

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Sayoni Hot 20 List: Nominations!

Written by sayoni on 13 July 2008. Posted in Announcements

Every year, mainstream, men’s magazines such as FHM and Maxim publish lists of Hot 100 Women. And every year, we choke on those lists because they feature typically boring, made-for-straight-men, never-over-35, and never-over-110-pounds women. We know, that as queer women, we have way better taste, and we are able to appreciate all kinds of beauty.

Hence, we are opening nominations for our very own Sayoni Hot 20 List! Nominate about 2-15 female celebrities based in Singapore, or of Singapore origin – actresses, musicians, writers, directors (and politicians?) and more, whom YOU think are attractive and/or sexy. Do not rank them, simply list them.

Nominations will be closed in two weeks, after which voting will be opened. You can either leave a comment or email us privately at This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it..

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Letters to Ling: Living a Lie

Written by ling on 10 July 2008. Posted in Advice Column

Facing a problem with your life, your sexuality, relationship, family et cetera? Write in to our advice columnist, Ling, with your problem. All emails are confidential and your anonymity will be preserved.

Dear Ling

I’m a married woman in my 30s, with two kids and a wonderful husband. Wonderful as he is, I know I am not in love with him, and never can be… I knew I was a lesbian even before I got married… but my parents were pressuring me to find a husband before my time was up, and so I did. He is a great husband and a father, and I’m fairly fond of him. Our sex life, however, is practically non-existent… every time he tries to initiate sex, I make up an excuse and decline, because every time we do, I feel like crying, and I often do, after he has fallen asleep.

I love my kids, and I want what’s best for them. I don’t want to put them through a divorce, and it is not like my husband is a bad man. But the longer I stay in this relationship, the longer I feel I am lying to myself, and the more depressed I get. I don’t know what to do.

Married Mom

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